WARNING THIS POST CONTAINS NAUGHTY LANGUAGE.... and is really really long.
Did you all notice that I was MIA last week? There was reason behind that...
2-3 weeks ago I stumbled upon a facebook page that was quite large using content from my blog as well as my friends blogs without permission. Simple copyright infringement. I voiced my opinion loudly on my Bakeaholic Mama facebook page... 100's of comments most of which supported me and agreed that just because it is published on the internet does not mean it's free for the taking. You can make the recipes, share the links but you can not copy and paste my photography or my words.
Then there was a large group of my followers that were outraged because of one sentence in my rant...
"I am not a bored stay at home mom twiddling her thumbs...."
Mom's were outraged. I got about 10 private messages telling me how ashamed I should be for insinuating stay at home mom's are lazy... comment after comment saying the same thing. Then there were a couple of people who went off. Bat shit crazy style. I was told to stick a spoon in my
It was ridiculous. People attacked me because I said I am not a bored stay at home mom. That's right people I AM NOT A BORED STAY AT HOME MOM. I am a busy STAY AT HOME MOM..... stay at home moms do not have it easy, I was simply saying I am not that stereotype. I work hard at home with my kids, keeping my house (sorta clean) , and working on my blog tyring to build a business.
People are so quick to react before fully reading. They get brave behind their computer screens and forget that I to am a human being with feelings. There is a person behind this blog. A dedicated stay at home mom who just wants to bake you all some damn cookies!
Fast forward a few days... I stumble upon ANOTHER large facebook page with 70-80k fans who is copy and pasting words from blogs, taking photographs and sharing them to gain more fans... and not crediting the sources. So what do I do? I private messaged the page owner.
She did in fact remove her page from facebook.... for a whopping 6-8 hours. She then came back. LUCKY ME... she shared the following post below providing her 70ish THOUSAND fans with my personal facebook page... which of course lists my employer as Bakeaholic Mama and the state/town I live in, had a picture of my kids, names of the schools I've attended, my husbands name.... thousands of people had this info at their disposal. This women runs such a large page and she chose to use it for hate.
Apparently what I thought was a nice enough message trying to explain something was considered to be UGLY?? What was ugly is what happened next.
|"Her whole page (profile picture) explains her frame of mind...." This is because that particular day I like thousands of others had an equality symbol showing that we support equal marriage rights.|
|Hope you all don't find the mustaches distracting.... I wanted to protect the identity of the Facebook users involved private. Covering it up in man hair seemed like a good idea at the time.|
Those were just the comments on HER page (over 200...) my fan page filled up with comments on every photo going back for 3 weeks saying "is this really YOUR recipe?" "You stole this recipe from my mom." " THIS IS MINE I MADE THAT LAST YEAR. HOW DARE YOU!" ... all bold face lies. Just trolls out trying to fudge up my page and make me lose followers. I had to monitor my fan page for a full 24 hours deleting these comments constantly.
To top it all off my inbox filled up with threats, and remarks like "May god help you. Jealousy is a sin." "I hope your kids don't turn out like you." "leave Kim alone! We LOVE KIM!!!!!!!" "I bet you don't make any of the things on your webpage" "homo lover" "leave Kimmy the hell alone"
And my all time favorite....
Watch my back? Ok that's kinda scary right? What do I do? Is this person serious? And wait... how am I a
What is wrong with people?
I hear about cyber-bullying on the news or from friends who have older kids. It's an epidemic among middle and high school kids. The internet gives people fake muscles. They use their words in the most hateful and hurtful ways. It truly disturbs me to know that these kids learn this behavior from someone. Apparently adults behave this way as well.
Want to know how it made me feel? I cried. I cried a LOT. I normally have thick skin but when you have spent days getting harassed by these people it wares on you. I had to stay away from my blog for a while until they all went away.
I am not alone in this form of harassment. A blogging friend had a page owner's husband threaten to take a hit out on us.... "contact his associates" to deal with her for messing with his wife's page. One person was called a
My husband gave me a little pep talk after the worst of it was over. If I want to continue to share my work on the internet, and attempt to attract thousands of strangers into my life. I need to get used to this kind of backlash. People will always twist words, and type before they think.
He's right. This happens all too often and I can't cry every time someone is mean to me.
If you are bullied online there are things you can do. First though you need to determine if it's a credible threat or a just an internet troll. The fact is the majority of these people are sad lonely people with nothing better to do. They are targeting you because they are jealous of your success, they are jealous of your creativity. When to tell if it's a credible threat? This is tricky... I say go with your gut. In my case I thought on it a bit before making a decision if I should report the harassment to my local police department. I decided they were just internet trolls. People sent to ruin my day....
If your gut says something is wrong with a comment, email, facebook post, tweets.... contact your local authorities for help. Or you can check out this page for more info.
Bullying in any form should NOT be tolerated. In order to fix the problem, we as adults and parents need to re evaluate our online behavior and make it known to our kids that is not ok..... EVER. For some great info on how to handle these types of situations.
Salty Seattle: How Do You Handle Negative Comments ?
Internet Trolls: How to Fight Back
How to file an Internet Crime Complaint
How to file a report on Facebook
Not In Our Town: Facts on cyber bullying
The Food Blogger's Fight Against Cyber Bullying
Amish friendship bread is a very popular recipe for a sweet bread that made using a "starter" it takes a couple of weeks or some say months to create the perfect starter. Once you have it... it grows and you can share the starter with your friends so everyone can enjoy the sweetness of Amish Friendship Bread.
Most recipes are made with boxed pudding mix. I somehow can not picture the Amish using a boxed mix so I did some recipe digging and found the recipe linked below, that does no include pudding!
Recipe for the starter & bread click here.
Instead of baking it into bread loaves, I divided the batter into muffin cups and baked at 350 for 20 minutes.
I topped half of my muffins with a maple glaze and the other half with maple sugar.
To make the maple glaze: 1 tbs maple syrup whisked together with 1/4 cup powdered sugar. Drizzle over the tops of your cooled muffins.
I think these internet bullies could use some friendship muffins to brighten their day don't you think?
I am part of a fun group called the Leftovers Club. It's a group of bloggers who share a recipe on their blog and then ship the leftover goodies to a friend. To checkout what my friends made click the links below.
Savory Simple - Quinoa Granola
Damn Delicious - Cinnamon Puppy Chow
Frugal Foodie Mama - Coconut Chai Biscotti
Let's Give Peas a Chance - Chocolate Chip & Potato Chip Cookie Bars
A Zesty Bite - Oreo Toffee Brownies
Dining With Dani - Chocolate Covered Espresso Cookies
MarocMama - Gluten-Free Moroccan Piped Cookies
Sugar Dish Me - Chocolate Cake Cookies
Diethood - Chocolate Cloud Cookies
Eats Well With Others - White Chocolate Blondies
Souffle Bombay - Spicy Dark Chocolate Brownies aka Mexican Brownies
Kelly Bakes - Lemon Thyme Shortbread
Pineapple and Coconut - Chocolate Dipped Caramel Cream Filled Coconut Shortbread
The Spiced Life - "Twisted Tollhouse" Shaved Chocolate Cookies
Eat Bake Drink Cook - Frosted Peanut Butter Chocolate Bars
Food n' Focus - English Muffin Bread