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12.18.2012

I'm Burnt Out

Yesterday I was one of many bloggers that chose to do a day of silence in remembrance of the victims in the Newtown shootings.

I am at a loss of words, I don't know what to write. I do know I don't feel right posting a recipe and writing a fun blog post right now. I feel shitty. I am not that articulate (go figure... blog writer and all HA!) to explain to you all how I as a mom am handling the thoughts of having your child ripped from your life. I just can't.

We all have different ways of expressing our feelings and coping with a tragic event. I for one can't get the images out of my head. I want to do anything and everything I can do, to prevent this type of senseless act from happening again.... I have been in touch with my local legislation, I have written letters and drawn pictures to the victims families in CT, and I want to do more..... That could have been one of children's names on the list of the 26 killed on Friday.

So in my day of silence (partial day... I cheated a couple times!) I came to some conclusions.

1) I am addicted to my smart phone. This is not a funny addiction, one that I can poke fun at like my addiction to baking... hence the blog name. This is a real addiction. I have my phone in my hand at all times. I am constantly on twitter, facebook, and instagram. You all know it... you see me there. You might be on it as much.... I don't know. But What I do know is that I don't like it.... I don't want to be connected all the time.

2) I watch the news TOO much! I have been crying for 4 days. I'm not joking. I can't tear my eyes away from ABC or CNN. When the news isn't on in the house... I'm reading it on my damn phone or listening to it on NPR!

3) I had so much more fun yesterday NOT blogging than I had in a long time. I took time to appreciate every aspect of my life. I counted my blessings and I am vowing to not take my time for granted with my family.


4) Blogging is burning me out. The community that exists amongst you all is great. I have made a ton of friends. But I find the drama, the constant worry about stats, PR, monetizing my blog.... utterly exhausting.

I have blogger burn out my friends. And honestly... I just want to sit on the floor and play Lego's with my kids.



 How do you battle blogger burnout?  And how are you coping with the Newtown tragedy? 


 
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41 comments:

  1. Go play!!!! Always play! :) I agree- smartphones are nice and naughty. Whenever I'm feeling stressed about blogging I just cut back- once a week posts. And I turn down every "extra" opportunity rhat comes my way. Blogging is my *me* time. It should always bring joy...not stress.

    Have funplaying legos :)

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    1. Seriously THANK YOU! You are so sweet... and I've made some killer lego houses this week!

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  2. Enjoy the legos! And the holidays with your beautiful family. All your readers will be here when you get back and will probably appreciate you even more because you'll be renewed and not just going through the motions. xo!

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    1. Rachel Thank you so much!Hope you and the fam had a fabulous holiday with your newest addition!

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  3. I had a huge blogger burn out when I started nursing school last year. I took pretty much a year off and I regret it. I think a couple of weeks is good, but don't wait as long as I did. It's been hard to get my stats to where they were. Plus I get frustrated because my blog isn't where I want it to be when I compare it with others. Then I have to sit back and think about how my blog is my happy place and that I started it because I love food...not the stats, pr, etc. Take a break, clear your head, enjoy your family and then come back.

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    1. Yikes a whole year! Yeah it's been a week and a half and I'm just checking my stats starting to get sucked back in. A little break has done me good! You are the best Haley, thanks so much for your kind words ;)

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  4. Go play, Carrie. Maybe even take the rest of the year off from the blog. I regularly schedule weekends when I don't post and I plan for two weeks off each holiday. My rest will start this Saturday! Whenever I start to feel the burn out, I know it's time for a short break.

    As for watching the news, I haven't turned it on once. Friday was so horrific, so awful in every aspect, my watching it or not watching it does not lessen the tragedy. I'm praying for those families every day. For the most part though, I rarely watch the news. I read enough online in order to be aware of current events. I've found that works best for our family. It is too easy to become obsessed with things completely out of our control. You've done everything in your power at this point. Now take care of yourself.

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    1. It's been great this past 1.5 weeks. I'm so glad I've taken a bit of a break. Just sitting down to work on posts for the New Year and I feel 100% better! Thanks so much for your advice and kind words Mary. xxx

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  5. Go play Carrie. leave the stats, tweets and drama behind. You'll lose your mind and most importantly they take you away from what's truly important your kids! I don't want my blog to take over my life, it's a hobby for goodness sake, not a job!
    Go play logo, live life and come back when you're ready

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    1. Thanks friend! Sometimes it's so hard to tone out everything else.... I tend to dwell on the negative stuff too much and seriously just need to chill! It's been a fun week of baking without photos and writing. SUCH A NICE CHANGE!

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  6. Definitely go play and enjoy your babies!!! There will be plenty of time for blogging later. Blogging should be fun and not stressful, and it shouldn't take over your life or take time away from your family. I am proud of you for realizing that you need the break. I honestly don't know how bloggers with little ones at home have that much time to put into blogging. I started blogging as a hobby when all my kids were in school full time...it gives me something to do during the day when they are gone. Although I'm sure my hubby wishes I did more cleaning and cooking some days;-)

    Have a wonderful holiday with those beautiful kids of yours. Hugs!!!

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  7. Go! Enjoy your family and your holidays! And DO NOT think about us, please!!!

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  8. Step away from the computer! I am SO with you on blogger burnout. Take some time off!!! In the long run, it'll be a good thing.

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    1. Yuk burn out sucks. Here's to a New Year... that is fun!

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  9. Girlfriend...take your time. Do whatever you need to feed your soul and focus on what is really important. In the grand scheme of life, stats and PR matter very little. Do only what brings you joy. I've also fallen into the "stats obsessed" trap and found that doing so sucks the life right out of my writing and very quickly leads to burnout. I have to write/bake/blog for me. Period. I can't worry about catering to the PR folks or brands, because if it's not authentic/genuine, then why bother?

    Hug your kiddos and play with them. That's what matters. I'll still be here whenever you're ready.

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    1. I need to stop taking it so seriously huh? Thanks so much for your kind words! I've been enjoying this holiday break tremendously!

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  10. I recently went through blogger burn out, to the point I genuinely considered quitting. I did some praying and soul searching and tried to remember why I started blogging in the first place. I began my blog as a fun creative outlet for me and to help others bring joy to their family and friends through food. It really helped me put things in perspective and renewed my passion for blogging. I still have to remind myself to make sure i blog for those reasons and not for the stats. And for what it's worth, you and your blog are fabulous!

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    1. I'm glad I am not the only one who wanted to throw the towel in! I was close to just deleting it. How sad would I have been to see all this work/love go down the drain! I'm really trying to just remember the fun creative side of it and forget all the other pressures of trying to make it big. In the end it doesn't matter. I need this more as a creative outlet!

      Thanks so much for your kind words! I hope you had a great holiday!! xxx

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  11. You have to do it because you love it. Forget about the PR, stats blah blah unless this is a source of income that supports your family. I had one year where I posted less, played more, enjoyed life. You'll find you come back with more energy. Enjoy those kids, stop watching the news...believe it or not..it is sensationalized (I used to write the news) even in tradgedy. UGH!

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    1. So trying to forget about the blah blah parts of blogging! It's been fun week of nothing but fun with the kids... and NO NEWS! That's the best part... I don't start my morning off with the depressing facts of what's going on in our world.

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  12. We all go through it and honestly, right now is the perfect time I'd suggest taking a break. Vacation is next week. Take a week or two off and come back refreshed with a new view on how you want your blog to be from there on out.

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  13. Thanks for being so open and honest, Carrie. Like you, I was glued to the news all weekend but finally my mom and husband made me stop. The fact is, I can't cry all day in front of my 15 month old (and I'm sure it doesn't change as they get older.) Ultimately, my mom reminded me that watching the news doesn't change or help anything and I had no argument. She was right. I haven't watched more than 15-20 minutes in the past few days and I feel so much better. xoxoxoxo

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    1. I haven't turned the news on once this week. It's been great! I normally only watch it when the kids are in bed... but I find myself checking abcnews.com or the HuffPost on the computer and phone constantly. I haven't started my early mornings of with depressing stories... SO NICE!

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  14. Carrie, I really appreciate this post. I feel so similar. I've spent the last 5 days, checking my iphone, sneaking peeks of the news online (can't have any news on here with the little ears), crying and thinking about those littles. Utterly heartbroken. In addition to that, I'm so consumed with blogging that at times, I'm missing out on the most important people. So, I'm taking a blog break with the exception of a couple more posts this year. I need to and I'm not sure if in 2013 I'll focus on daily blogging - it's just too much. Hang in there my friend! Enjoy your sweet family and Happy Holidays!

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    1. I won't let myself watch the news on TV anymore.... I used to get up a half hour before the kids and watch it with my coffee and again at bed time. Such a sad way to start and end your day. All the depressing stories... It has been nice to tune it out! Happy Holidays and I hope you guys are enjoying all the snow we got today! xxx

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  15. I completely understand! The best thing to do is to walk away, recharge, and reflect on what's important to you. At the end of the day, family and friends are what matter the most. Let me know if you need anything. Hugs. xoxo

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  16. Aww, Carrie! Take a break, relax, and spend Christmas with your awesome family. And eat some Chinese for me ;)
    You deserve it! You work hard.

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  17. Oh, Carrie. We should talk. And not just because we are both "Carri" even if it is spelled different. In fact, we should be friends. I've been reading your side for far too long to not have been commenting. I believe this week has done me in as well. Although, I've made a few decisions for myself. Oh, and wasn't Monday lovely? I had the nicest day ever. Oh, yeah that's what it's like to just be a mom again. Oh heavens, you're going to roll your eyes at this long post, so I better sign off. Much love!

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    1. You are too sweet Carrian... and I always want to spell your name with some added E's ! I'm so glad I disconnected a tad this week. It has been nice to just focus on what's really important... this little stuff needs to take a back burner in my life.

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  18. Oh Carrie, I'm so sorry. I definitely understand the feeling of a blogger burnout. Many times I've felt it, but especially now as well. How can we post fun treats when something so tragic just happened? It seems so frivolous and stupid, but in a way, it's helping me cope with what happened, too. I can't really offer much in the way of advice, but what I can say is, you'll know when you're reading to step back to your blog. In the meantime, enjoy the holidays, take a long break and don't fret over stats or whatever, and come back when you feel rejuvenated and ready. It's not easy to do, I know--I worry about my blog, too!--but you'll feel better once you've had some time alone to spend time with family and not worry about developing recipes or pinning things or whatever.

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    1. Hayley seriously I <3 you big time! Thanks so much for the kind words ;)

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  19. so sorry about the news from Connecticut...so sad so tragic...sending my prays to them from Istanbul-Turkey...

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  20. Hi Carrie,
    I hope you are having a great week off and Happy Holidays to you and your adorable family. Ps it's easy to get caught up in all the negative stuff that comes with blogging....it's really not worth it, though. Family and real life are much more important IMHO. Message me on facebook if you ever want to talk. xoxo

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    1. Winnie! Thanks I need to remind myself to not take my little ol' blog so seriously. Kids and family are much more important and I need to stop sweating the small stuff! Thanks so much! And I may blow your Facebook up with ?'s one of these days! Happy Holidays to you.

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  21. I am with you there on the burnout. I am so with you there....

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